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Self-Care Is Whatever You Need It To Be
Self-care can feel like a tricky concept to properly get to grips with. It isn't just bath bombs and scented candles - it's doing everything we need to do to stay functional (whatever that looks like for you), comfortable (same again), and alive. This can, and should, mean going out of your way to give … Continue reading Self-Care Is Whatever You Need It To Be
Looking Fat
Cw: discussion of societal and internalised fatmisia We are so often encouraged to wear clothes that make us look smaller. I remember being in my early twenties, trying on clothes in a cramped changing room, waiting to find the perfect drab outfit that would make me look the thinnest. Eventually, uncomfortable and sweating under the … Continue reading Looking Fat
Sometimes Trans People Suck at Sports (and they should be allowed to)
I'm transgender, and I suck at sport. Some of my earliest memories involve me looking up at towering adults while wearing an adorable tutu and feeling very, very cross about it. Even though I sucked, I did a lot of sport as a child - ballet, tap dancing, horse riding, judo, swimming, gymnastics, football, etc, … Continue reading Sometimes Trans People Suck at Sports (and they should be allowed to)
Stating the Obvious
Cw: discussion of transphobia. EDIT: As of 2020, I'm no longer ok with being called a woman and I exclusively use they/them pronouns! 💙 Hello! Here's my non-binary face! I'm non-binary. For me that feels like stating the obvious and it's something that I've written about on this blog a few times now. Sometimes, though, … Continue reading Stating the Obvious
Five Creators to Support on Patreon
CW: Discussion of transphobia On the back of my Patreon launch I've been thinking about the amazing creators I subscribe to on that platform. So, without further ado, here are the four creators that I support on Patreon right now, with a special surprise celebrity guest at the end (spoilers: it's me). The featured image … Continue reading Five Creators to Support on Patreon
To Anyone Who’s Struggling This Christmas
Cw: discussions of abuse, oppression, mental health, and food Christmas can be difficult, and complicated, and full of feelings, and whatever is happening for you right now, it will be over sooner than you think. You are resilient even though you shouldn't have to be, and you can get through this. We can get through … Continue reading To Anyone Who’s Struggling This Christmas
On Passing
I am never sure how my girlfriend doesn't pass. She's curvy with long pink hair and a dimpled smile that lights up a room. Her skin is soft and her lips are plump. She listens, loudly, to music that I consider embarrassingly girly (I have some unsorted toxic masculinity to work out - it's a … Continue reading On Passing
Haunted but not Alone: A Trans Take on the Horror Industry
Adapted from Dirge Magazine, August 2017 cw: discussion of transphobia and horror tropes The central struggle of most horror films is in strong but vulnerable people fighting for their lives and facing off against malevolent forces that want to kill them. This is also basically the transgender manifesto – so why aren’t there more trans … Continue reading Haunted but not Alone: A Trans Take on the Horror Industry
How to Deal with Assholes this Holiday Season (and All Year Round)
Adapted from Dirge Magazine, November 2015 How to Deal with Assholes this Holiday Season cw: emotional abuse, discussion of oppression Did your new haircut make your Grandma cry? Does your partner want to throw out your collection of weird erotica? Does your obsession with taxidermy make your best friend roll their eyes? Maybe you liked … Continue reading How to Deal with Assholes this Holiday Season (and All Year Round)
Katy Lees - Therapist & Author 